He did agree not to eat the kids, though...
One topic you see online in some women's discussion groups is how men behave badly when it comes to basic household chores, or even getting and keeping a job. The wife goes off to work, leaving husband to loaf around all day, getting high and playing video games. The wife asks him to do laundry, and he puts all the delicates in with his grease-stained blue jeans, sets the temperature on "hot" and for good measure, adds a cup or two of bleach.
She'll never ask him to do laundry again. Maybe that was the point.
I saw this firsthand, more than once, with friends and relatives. Marijuana was involved, of course. I am not against pot, but like alcohol or any other drug, it can become a crutch and cause people to fail at life. It also can create a lot of passive-aggressive behavior.
One complaint you hear often on these women's discussion groups is how men crow that they "help out" with the housework, as if being of assistance is some major accomplishment, as opposed to say, doing half of it. Sadly, whether it is conditioning from our culture or some biological urge, it seems women are programmed to "keep house" traditionally, and back in the day, men went off to be "breadwinners" and bring home a paycheck.
But all that has changed, and someone forgot to tell the men.
Since I was born, women went from making up a fraction of the workforce to a huge portion. Back in 1960, only 37% of women worked at a paying job, while today, the number is over 56%. Not only that, the types of jobs women do today have changed. In the good (bad) old days, women had jobs "until they got married" and often the jobs available to them were in service industries. You could be a secretary, a waitress, or a flight attendant - the latter being only until you got older, then you were fired. There is, of course, nothing wrong with any of those jobs, only that those were the only choices. In the professions, women dominated nursing, but a "lady doctor" or "lady lawyer" were deemed humorous novelties. Today they make up 36-40% of both professions.
So times have changed, but many men haven't. A generation of young men are listening to "podcasts" and Twitter feeds and TickTock videos from toxic males who preach to them that they deserve to be "kings" and that they are entitled to sex with the women of their choice. Of course, they are also selling their "pickup artist" books, which suggest to men that in order to get with a woman, you have to gaslight her by making her constantly feel inadequate and insecure. "Nice dress - you're not going to wear it with those shoes, are you?" - that sort of crap.
These sites and authors are teaching young men the exact opposite of where they need to go. You can't be a "toxic male" and have a wife who is a partner in a law firm.
But that is what many of today's "incels" (who do not look anything like our lion king above) are clamoring for. They want a Mommy who will clean up after them, do the laundry, make food, and provide sex - the proverbial "bang-maid" who is an object more than a person. In the rare instances where some woman goes along with this nonsense, the relationship is doomed to failure.
I saw this firsthand, like I said, many a time. Let's take "Tim" as an example - not his real name, of course. His wife has a career and he has.. a job most of the time. Tim likes to smoke an awful lot of pot, drink a lot of beer, and spend the day on the Internet, mostly downloading porn or playing video games. He's "between jobs" right now and his wife asks him to pick up their kid after school and do some basic shopping. He gets high and forgets both, which results in a panicked phone call from the school to the wife, who in turn is angry with Tim. An argument ensues when she gets home (after leaving work early to pick up their child).
Tim's wife is unhappy - not just with Tim, but the situation she is now forced to be in. She never signed up to be a "nagging wife" but it seems that is what she has to do, constantly, to try to get Tim to focus. Tim uses passive-aggressive techniques to duck out on any kind of responsibilities in life, which in turn, pushes his wife into more nagging and argument. Both are unhappy, but Tim is having more fun at this game - let's be frank here.
They ended up getting divorced, of course, as Tim's wife finally realized that nothing was going to change and that Tim really didn't want to change. Tim now lives alone in his own squalor and calls his ex-wife a nagging witch (or something that rhymes with that) who "only cared about money!" (because she had to pay all the bills). It is pretty sad, really. But how did this happen?
Not overnight, to be sure. Tim had a girlfriend before he got married, and the pattern was the same - she was the Earth-Mother-Goddess who took care of Tim and allowed him not to grow up. Massive amounts of drugs were involved, of course, with a tinge of mental illness. Eventually, his girlfriend left him and - surprise, surprise - he claimed to be the victim and of course, she was just a "materialistic witch" - or something that rhymes with that.
At least Tim wasn't violent or abusive (other than in the passive-aggressive sense). Many other men resort to violence or even murder - you read about in the paper every day. "I'll show everyone who's crazy!" they shout, as they gun down their ex-wife and her entire extended family. Yea buddy, you showed us who was crazy! You.
Like I said, it seems this sort of thing is on the rise, fueled by social media, who lauds these sort of "influencers" who tell unempowered males what they want to hear - that they are entitled to a girlfriend (or "females" as they call them - red flag!) or wife, "but for" wokeism and feminism and other -isms, they are being denied their rightful heritage as kings!
Who is spewing this stuff? Well, three guesses as to which foreign country has a huge hacking force run by their government and is hell-bent on destabilizing America. Yes, it isn't all about "Russia great, America bad!" on the Internet - in fact, they rarely are that stupidly obvious. No, rather it is all about turning Americans against each other - Right against Left, Gay against Straight, Black against White, and yes, Men against Women. You get an enemy to fight itself, you need not fight it yourself. They will collapse from within. The Art of War.
And you know something? They're doing a pretty darn good job at it, too. But only because we are so stupid as to think these really are our opinions and not something created by outside forces. I mean, think about it, this whole "trans" thing is just nonsense. I think both sides are being trolled to take extreme positions - and to not even think about conversation or compromise.
But you'd be surprised (or not so surprised) as to how many people think this is the most pressing issue of the day and how many are passionately invested in it. They are blood-boiling angry over it, too. Like I said, they are trolling us but good.
But I digress.
In my own life, I found myself leaning on Mr. See for domestic chores - although we had a maid at one time, a couple of times a week (that was an expensive lesson) when we were both working. Mr. See has a degree in hotel-restaurant management, so he runs the kitchen. I try to be conscientious about doing dishes, starting the dishwasher, and putting them away, as well as cleaning the counters and such. I mean, that's the least I could do, right? It is all-too-easy to fall into a habit of letting your spouse do the work while you watch "your favorite show" - this is how resentment builds up.
Of course, there is always a tension with regard to house cleaning and many men seem content to live with a level of dust and dirt. "Why vacuum? Seems fine to me, and I'm in the middle of a multi-player video game!" And that becomes a source of strife in many marriages, as one partner wants things cleaner than the other. Some kind of compromise has to be reached.
But the key word is compromise, not "Heads I win, tails you lose" - which seems to be the rallying cry of the passive-aggressive.
