The problem was, of course, that good old Joe didn't want to change his lifestyle much to accommodate his wife and new family. He still hung out in bars, squandering what little money he had, and showed up every evening at home, late, drunk, and argued with his wife in front of the children. Good old Joe! Everyone loves Joe, right? Except his wife, who was finding it harder and harder to make ends meet, and spent hours keeping house, taking care of the kids, and working at a job of her own, while Joe went out with his "buddies" and had a good time. Yet everyone told her, good old Joe! He's such a nice guy! which started to rankle her after a while.
All I know is, I would never get away with the shit that Joe does. If I tried to even pull off half the stuff he does, people would call me out on it. And maybe this gets back to how victimhood works. Joe gets away with it because we condescendingly think "he doesn't know any better" because he comes from a rural home and does not have a lot of education. He gets sympathy when he screws up. We are held to a higher standard, at least in theory. But if you think about it, all the time Joe spends at the Bible-Thumping church, shouldn't he know better than the rest of us? Or at the very least, not be so eager to judge others.
The problem I have, is that there are a lot of Good Old Joe's in the world, who are quick to judge others, but not judge themselves. Sarah Palin is quick to denounce extramarital sex and the high divorce rate, but fails to see how this plays out in her own family. People are fallible - we all are. But to claim to have the inside track to what God thinks, while at the same time leading a train-wreck of a life, strikes me as a bit odd.