On the other hand, many a young couple, "madly in love", end up in a bitter divorce only a few years later when the business-end of their relationship hasn't worked out. It ends up a race to the bottom, with each trying to out-spend the other and no common goals or hardships are shared. Most marital difficulties are related to economics, not romantic difficulties.
Marriages, particularly among the ruling classes, have often been strategically made, to build alliances between different tribes or families or even countries. The story of Romeo and Juliet is more often than not a true story - but an alliance between competing families, rather than a source of strife.
The house of Saud has stayed in power through the use of strategic marriage - of course, it helps that in their culture, you can marry more than once. Marriage, worldwide, is far more than merely flowers and candy, going out on "dates" and falling in love. In fact, that seems to be a unique Western, or even American trait of marriage.
I met a couple the other day who had been married for nearly 40 years, and now retired, were thinking of divorce. "Are you kidding me?" I said, "You've made it this far, why not just keep going?" And their reason for splitting was pretty lame - they just had drifted apart over the years, but were "still friends". Hey, that's enough to get you to coast to the end at this point - and far more than most people in that age group have.
Sadly, the stereotype of older people - and it is an accurate one - is that they are largely female and alone. If you have a husband at that point, you might as well hang onto him - otherwise the widows will snatch him away in a heartbeat, and I am not kidding about this. Both Mark's and my Fathers were approached by widows bearing casseroles within an hour of our Mother's funerals.
But I digress, yet once again.
Should you "buy" a mail-order bride? It depends, I guess. My gut reaction is that marrying someone from an utterly foreign culture is going to have its own unique set of challenges. And you have to make sure you are not letting "love" - or worse yet, lust - blind yourself to the possibility that your overseas "true love" is truly in live with the United States and a Green Card, or better yet, Citizenship.
But how we meet and marry people is at best, an inexact science, based mostly on the laws of probability more than anything else. Such marriages seem to work as often or not as any other type, so it is hard to criticize the remaining types, particularly since they seem to be the most predominant in the world.