Or maybe you go in there, and as the screen-door slams behind you, the folks at the counter all turn to look at you. And the overweight sheriff at the end of the counter looks you over through his mirrored sunglasses, and drawls, "You-all ain't from around here, arya, boy?" Yes, scary stuff, and it's been known to happen - in movies and on TeeVee.
By the way, the friend who sends every meal back always expects the meal to be "compted" on the bill - even though the item was re-made for them and they take it home in a clamshell. This tells me the real reason they are sending the food back - they are trying to scam the restaurant out of a free meal. I have no respect or tolerance for this sort of thing.
Restaurants should be an occasional thing, and not your kitchen. I think one reason people go to chain restaurants or send food back is the cost. The chain restaurant has "cheap" entrees, but of course, the money you spend driving there may have cost more than the meal. Sending food back is your mind saying, "I can't afford this - and at these prices, I should be allowed a food tantrum!" Eat out less - that is what your mind is saying.
Making food at home isn't hard. Certainly eggs and pancakes and other breakfast food is some of the easiest stuff in the world to make. Even I can make a freaking pancake - you add water and stir and pour - how hard is that? And if you do live in fear of unusual foods or unusual ingredients, at least you have the control you need. And you are saving a ton of money to boot.
Second, stop sending food back. There are very, very few instances where this is appropriate. Steak over-cooked? Eat it. Sending it back to make a new one means your dining partners have to sit awkwardly while you wait. It ruins the experience, and restaurant dining is more about the experience that just refueling your gut with food. Don't go back, if the food is badly prepared. If enough people do this, they go broke. If not, then maybe the problem is you, not them.
Third, take a few food risks, you may be surprised. That "Diner" may be a total shithole and you may never go back. Or, it could be the best experience you've ever had, and you'll rave to your friends about it. Why wait for "Diners, Drive-Ins, and Dives" to "discover" a place, when you can discover it on your own. The risk to you is trivial.
Sadly, I know too many people who won't even think about going to an Indian Restaurant, for example, because they fear the menu. "All that curry!" they say, as if curry was a spice and not a dish. I know I was that way, until a young friend of mine took us to an Indian restaurant and introduced us to the hallucinogenic effect produced by a spicy Vindaloo washed down with a dry Riesling. He also introduced me to shellfish - something I wasted half my life by not trying.
Yet so many are stuck in 6-year-old mode, as I was, eating only cake and ice cream and hot dogs and popcorn. There is so much else to life - and you don't have much time left to enjoy it. In fact, as we get older, our bodies often can't tolerate unusual foods, which is all the more reason to try them now, before it is too late.
But sadly, it seems the majority of Americans are content to go through life driving a bland car ("Do you have this Malibu in beige?"), eating bland foods, and watching television five hours a day (more Fox News, please!). I guess that is a way to live, but it is hardly living - being in fear all the time (Fox News terror alert - spicy food ahead!) and refusing to try new things - and objecting whenever something is new or different in your life.
And the sad thing is, we are all this way to some extent - even I. It must be some sort of instinct, that is more present in some than others. Or perhaps an instinct - fear of the unknown - that needs to be fought more often - perhaps squashed.