My husband has been sending money to his Brother for many years - $500 a month or more. Recently, he came into a small inheritance, and he says he wants to give it entirely to his Brother, because the Brother "needs it".
His Brother has a good job with a pension and health care, an apartment, and a car, but spends more than he makes, and as a result has racked up a lot of credit card debt. My Husband says we need to "help him out" because we are "luckier" than he is.
However, I am concerned that we need to set aside enough money for OUR retirement, and we are sacrificing and doing without things (such as cable TV, which his Brother has) in order to pay off his Brother's credit card bills.
When I confronted my husband on this, he said, "Well, it's MY money, and I can do with it as I please!"
Who's right here?
And if discussing this ends up in an argument with your spouse saying you are "against his family" or whatnot, you are in for a world of woe.
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'?
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,
and the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one flesh.
"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."
In other words, your WIFE is your family now, buddy. Stop giving money to your parents or your drunken siblings!